I recently had a "discussion" with Papa about why Cruz isn't walking yet. He is 13 months and he will toddle for about 10-12 steps and then fall down. He doesnt stand up on his own without pulling up on things. I am not bugged by it. He is totally mobile, crawls super duper fast and has no problem getting from point A to point B. Papa feels differently.
He thinks, and I quote, "they say breastfed babies are usually delayed cuz they rely on their mom instead of being independant." And "If he lived with me would be walking and talking."
I am nothing if not worried about the toll that our lifestyle takes on Cruz. Is he stunted by his attachment to me? Is he delayed because of the consistent emotional distress of having to leave me so often? Lately he has reverted back to being DEVASTED everytime I leave him with Papa again. Does that kind of stress take a toll on him and his development?
I dont know how Cruz is when he is with his Papa, but I have always felt like he is different with his Papa then he is with me. And Papa has expressed the same observation... That cant be healthy can it? For an infant to act differently depending on which parent he is with?
I reiterate the fact that I think Papa is a great dad, but I worry if, collectively, we are causing harmful effects to our son due to the nature of our relationship and the extreme opposing lifestyles we live.
Have any of you heard of breastfed babies being delayed?