Like I mentioned we are pretty under the weather this week. Its only fitting seeing as I started school and Cruz's birthday is just around the corner. I always seem to get sick when important things are looming.
This little sicky has been enjoying much Toy Story 3 on the laptop. In bed. With popsicles.
He is so funny. This little man is obsessed with Woody in every way possible. More so his hat then anything. There is about a 20-30 minute segment in the middle of the movie where Woody looses his hat and Cruz makes me fast forward through the whole thing until he gets his hat back. He taps his head and says "HA. GO" aka "Woody lost his hat, please go to the part where he gets it back."
I just love this little boy so dang much. I'm so lucky to be his mama.
And speaking of haircuts, Cruz's Dad cut his hair the other night without telling me. He drove up and I opened the door to get Cruz out of the car and there sat my little boy with significantly less hair then I had dropped him off with. I cried far more then I care to admit.
I felt compelled to write. First off, I'm sorry you guys are sick. But most of all, I can sympathize with what you are going thru. From what I've gathered he requested a haircut and you did it. This was done in addition and without discussion...like a lot of things Im guessing. For that I'm sorry. But ultimately as my now late grandma would say, "this too will pass". As much as you can, look out for yourself and don't let him "get your goat"......That's what I'd have said to myself 10 years ago and saved myself a lot of anxiety and saddness. Now my kids are 15 and 13. We are a tight little family and they finally saw their dad for who he is. All you can do is do your best and let the rest roll off of you like water on a ducks back.
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Thank you so much for that comment as I consistently need the reminder to let things roll off my back. I've spent so much time trying to control how things happen in my sons life and monitor how his dad does things (out of concern for my son, not out of lack of respect for the dad) and I am just now letting myself learn that I can't control/fix/change things. It breaks my heart to not get to be involved in certain parts of my sons life, but, no matter how hard I fight (and believe me. I've fought) I cannot change the truth of what the situation. And that has been a freeing realization for me. Thanks for reminding me!
DeleteI was talking with my son's dad the other day and we were voicing some of our more "irrational" fears. He had a few, like that I would dress our son like a big dork (probably true) and I told him that one of my biggest fears is that he'd cut our son's hair behind my back if I let it get long (our son is just a little guy with wispy hair right now). Ah, I would be so sad. This is obviously about more than just the hair, but I do feel for you.
ReplyDeleteThankfully your guy's new haircut is pretty dang cute!
It's funny how attached you can get to something as little as hair (and Cruz's dad says the same thing about the way I dress him! Except he says its too "girly" or "hippie.") That is really great though that you and your son's dad still have the kind of relationship where you can communicate with each other about your fears/thoughts. I think thats so important in a healthy co-parenting relationship!
DeleteI love the little things that these guys get obsessed with (aka - Woody's hat). It's so much fun to see their personalities and likes and dislikes really start to grow.
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry about the haircut incident. I imagine your hurt was just as much about losing his locks as it was about not being able to control the decisions his dad makes.
I know it is so so much fun to watch their little personalities bloom! I just fall more and more in love with him every day (I guess thats been true since day 1 though right!?)
DeleteThe haircut was really hard for. And your right, while I was sad about the hair I was equally upset about the lack of control. But the thing that hurt the most was the lack of respect. While Cruz's dad and I dont get on very well, we have always made decisions together as best we can and talked to each other before we made any big change. This was the first time he just totally disregarded me as Cruz's parent and did what he wanted. The demise of mutual respect, understanding and trust was the hardest thing for me about the haircut.